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"Knowing yourself is the beginning to all wisdom"

Aristotle, 344 BC 

Psychotherapy in Jersey and online

Psychotherapy is practiced in order to understand, change, resolve and alleviate conditions of suffering and promote self-knowledge and self-awareness, so as to enable individuals to fulfil their potential (Dr Ken Evans). We want to hear your story, help you make sense of it and support you. We are experienced and trained to a high level.

Becoming Yourself Therapy is psychotherapy and counselling service provided by Danica and Heath Abbott. We offer confidential and non-judgemental space. We work in person on Tuesdays and Thursdays and online Monday to Friday. We support people that struggle with emotional or mental health and are ready to make changes in their life.

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About Danica

Would you like to live a more fulfilling life? Would you like to prioritise yourself without guilt? Would you like to explore your inner world and have a better understanding of who you really are? 

I am here to help. I studied integrative psychotherapy in Jersey, France (European Centre for Psychotherapeutic Studies) and UK (Scarborough Counselling & Psychotherapy Training Institute).

I am kind, considerate, flexible and I adapt my approach to my clients’ needs, checking to see what feels right for them. I am an intelligent and creative therapist and I am guided by my intuition, experiences, theory and knowledge. I am a natural healer and combine an integrative therapeutic approach, including a range of somatic techniques to release psychological, physical and emotional traumas from the body, leaving space for recovery and new beginnings (ways of being).

I offer a supportive, non-judgemental, confidential environment for my clients.

I have a considerable experience working with neurodiverse people.

I provide an inclusive space and I am an LGBTQI+ ally.

My practice is Diadic Developmental Psychotherapy informed and therefore in addition to individual work I can help you with parenting strategies and improving the relationship with your children. 

Contact Danica

Mobile: +44 7797 811122

About Heath

As an experienced Integrative Psychotherapist I am able to draw on various therapeutic disciplines and Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) principles, which bring a reduction of harm in human interaction. 

I adapt my approach to each client to provide the best, personalised support for you that I can, based on your needs. I don’t believe there is one size that fits all and I will work to your requirements, what feels right and what works for you. 

Dr Herward Wilkinson writer of the ‘The Muse as therapist’ described me as a profoundly intuitive therapist. I am caring, empathic and knowledgeable. This is not a job to me it is a way of life.  

I offer a  non-judgemental environment, where I am curious to understand your interpersonal world and how things are for you. I want to understand your lived experience and support you on your journey of self-discovery. 

I believe that our early life experiences shape and influence who we are and how we see ourselves and others in relationships. We often recreate this early life understanding of relationships and our coping mechanisms we used as youngsters, hoping for a different outcome. By raising awareness of ways of being that no longer serve us we are able to make different choices and decide what works for us as adults, finding new ways so we don’t repeat our old life patterns.  

I have been interested in human psychology since an early age and neuroscience in more recent years. I have been inspired by the works of  Eckhart Tolle, Dr Nadine Burke Harris, Babette Rothschilds, Brene Brown, Sue Gerhardt, Dr Bruce Perry, Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk, Dr Ken Evans, Joanna Hewitt Evans MA, Anne Pettit and Dr Heward Wilkinson and many other renowned therapists, authors and healers.

Contact Heath

Mobile: +44 7700 830213

Starting Therapy

We suggest we meet for an initial online (via Zoom, Teams or WhatsApp) or face to face session to see if we feel comfortable with each other. We recommend meeting on a weekly or bi-weekly basis, we will work to your requirements. Initially we would recommend six therapy sessions commitment, however many people benefit from a longer therapeutic relationship. Some people find they only need a couple of session to deal with a specific issue. 

Sessions are charged at £75 and last anything between 45 minutes to an hour.

Please ensure that you have privacy in a space that protects your confidentiality during your online appointment.

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Explore, Discover, Evolve

As therapists we believe that the two of the best devices that we are given at birth are our minds and bodies. From our experiences we know that no one really teaches us how to really use these fantastic elements of ourselves (unless we are highly trained athletes). 

In order to get the most out of ourselves in this challenging and complex world, it would make life significantly easier if we knew how to handle the equipment at our disposal. 

At Becoming Yourself Therapy we support our clients to integrate their minds, bodies and  other various parts of themselves; as the whole is greater than the sum of parts. This is facilitated by exploring your world and discovering your various different needs to help you take the steps to live the life you want.

How can therapy help?

At some point in our lives we have all had to adapt to our environment in order to survive. We needed to be accepted by our parental figures. Unfortunately during this process we learnt to compromise our needs and close off various different parts of ourselves in order to be accepted and ultimately survive and this may lead to issues such as stress, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem and difficulties in life in general.

There is no exhaustive list of issues that psychotherapy and counselling can help people with. If the issue you are concerned with isn't listed, please get in touch with us as we might be able to help. If we feel that we are unable to support you, we will do our best to refer you on to someone who can.

Therapy might help with:

  • Anxiety related issues
  • Feeling lost, loss of meaning or purpose
  • Depression
  • Low self-esteem
  • Coping with trauma (including PTSD and CPTSD)
  • Processing life changes
  • Grief, loss and bereavement
  • Coping with diagnosis, injury or illness
  • General relationship issues
  • Making positive life changes
  • Issues surrounding sexuality and identity
  • Attachment issues
  • Anger issues
  • Parenting associated issues

Reach out

As experienced integrative therapists, we blend various therapeutic approaches, incorporating a framework of Development and Relational therapy. We understand that each client is unique, and therefore, we adapt our approach to cater to individual needs. We recognize that there is no one-size-fits-all solution, considering that everyone has their own distinct lived experiences and specific requirements. We honor your expertise in knowing yourself best, and our role as therapists is to facilitate a process that enhances self-awareness, enabling you to recognize and understand patterns of behavior, identify what works for you, and determine areas that may require change for personal growth.

It is important to acknowledge that many of our fundamental blueprints for life and relationships are established during childhood, typically by the age of seven. Often, we haven’t fully updated our interpersonal “hard drives” from that time, which can cause us to revert back to old patterns of behavior, especially when we experience anxiety or distress.

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What we do

As experienced integrative therapists we offer a blend of therapeutic approaches incorporating a frame work of Developmental  and Relational therapy.  As no two clients are the same, so we adapt to our approach to our clients’ needs. We don’t have a one size fits all methodology, especially knowing we all have a unique lived experiences and therefore our own unique needs. We understand you are the expert in yourself and that therefore you know yourself best. Our approach as therapists is to facilitate a process to help increase and develop your self-awareness so you can recognise and understand your patterns of behaviours and unconscious processes, what works for you and what you might need to change in order to move forward. Most of our own unique blueprints for life and relationships with ourselves and others are in place by the time we are seven years old and often we have not successfully updated our interpersonal hard drives from childhood. Therefore we can revert back to old patterns of behaviours from a younger age especially when we are anxious or distressed.

We recognise we all have our own version of normal and therefore if we can accept this, it is more likely we can create change. Arnold Beisser’s paradoxical theory of change can be summed up as “Change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not.” 

Contact Us

Call +44 (0) 7700 830 213     Email

Third Floor, Salisbury House, 1-9 Union Street, St Helier, Jersey, JE2 3RF


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Who we are

Our service is designed to ensure the highest standards of care, professionalism, and privacy. We are fully insured and compliant with the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR), prioritizing the confidentiality of our clients. We adhere to the Codes of Ethics and Practice set forth by the European Institute for Psychotherapeutic Studies. These codes align with the ethical standards and professional practices established by organizations such as UKCP, UKEATC, EIATCYP, EAGT, and EAIP.